Soul Mates and 'Twin Flames'
by Timothy Dexter Latus, DPMP
CEO of Academy of
Psychic Arts & Sciences
I doubt it would surprise you to know that one of the
most consistent and profound questions I hear from clients
in my metaphysical psychic practice has to do with romance.
That was true 30 years ago and it will be true tomorrow.
"Is this person my soul mate," I am asked. "Will I ever
find my soul mate in this lifetime?" The deep yearning
each of us has to connect with the ideal partner is surely
an important aspect of the human condition.
Clearly embedded in our psyche is the notion that there
is ONE person on this planet who is truly meant for us.
Our "one true love." If only we could discover that
person, surely we could live together happily ever after
and attain our innermost desires.
Probably NOT. At least not that effortlessly!
Romantic relationships are a primary classroom of life.
We've been given custody of our life force for what we can
LEARN. And almost universally, learning is NOT easy. It
takes enormous spiritual growth to be able to come
together with another human and LEARN happily ever after.
It CAN be done and it is something each of us correctly
aspires to do, but your own life experiences PROVE -- it
does not spring from a chapter in a fairy tale novel!
Am I suggesting that we are wrong to seek that deeply
satisfying connection with a beloved? I am not. But as
growth-seeking adults, I am saying that we should learn
the accurate PERSPECTIVE when it comes to romantic love.
The perspective is simple: We love in order to grow.
Period.
Of course loving another is a Divinely Inspired Gift
bountiful in its rewards and happiness. But ONLY if we
understand the process in its proper perspective. When we
don't understand or accept, things get terribly bollixed
up.
Most who inquire about their "soul mate" are looking
for a smooth, easy, conflict free relationship. A
connection with that one person on the planet who
magically creates within us total and complete
fulfillment.
Someone who transports us into a coupling free of
incompatibility, strive, struggle, turmoil and doubt.
Our "other half" with whom we may enjoy the REWARDS of
romantic connection without toil.
Does such a person exist for each of us? In my
spiritual understanding, the answer is "YES, but."
As you probably guess, the "but" is the key. BUT WE
NEVER ENCOUNTER SUCH A PERSON UNTIL we have EARNED it.
Until we have spiritually grown OURSELVES to the
degree that the work left to be done in our lifetime is
CONTRIBUTING TO OTHERS rather than working on
ourselves. Then and ONLY then do we encounter this
ever delightful romantic partner.
So you see, most of us are looking in the WRONG
direction. We are busy looking OUTWARD for our "soul
mate" when we really should be looking INWARD at what personal growth we have left to do!
In metaphysical thinking there are terms often used to
describe the very special person we seek, soul mates,
twin flames, twin souls, essence twins or spiritual twin.
Of those terms, metaphysical observation indicates there
is a distinction between "soul mates" and the various
"twin" terms.
Your "twin" is thought to have been created with the
same soul essence as your own, at the beginning of time.
You got half and your twin got half. Both of you have
then been sent into various physical incarnations to learn
and grow -- of course picking up individual (distinct from
one another) karma from your choices along the way.
At some lifetime, it is thought that the two twins
reunite in a romantic coupling and discover from one
another their "mirror reflection." The experience of
discovering your twin is as superlative as you can
imagine. "Love at first sight" considerably understates
the profound awareness and joy.
It is true that "twin flame" reunions create matings that
are charmed with true unconditional love and significantly
more bliss, but the fact that even twin relationships
bring differing karma together, makes them challenging,
too. Since the karma is not BETWEEN the twins, it is
easier to deal with. To say these are "power couples"
puts it mildly.
Twin flame relationships are extremely rare. In my
observation I would say only 1% of the time or less!
Technically, soul mate relationships are different and
much less "charmed." Sometimes I think the most
challenging relationship anyone can have is with a soul
mate. (We're talking romantic relationships but the soul
mate connection can play out in many roles: parent/child,
grandparent, sibling, even friend.)
You have lived many previous life-times with your soul
mate. You feel familiar and comfortable with him or her.
You have a great bond because you are working on a
common mission together. There is high purpose and
meaning in coupling with a soul mate but there is high
challenge too. You may experience strong balancing karma
as energies seek to "settle the score" from your previous lives together. Having been together many times, you have likely "settled" all the minor karma between you and are now working on the major issues. In my observation, I would say soul mate relationships seem to comprise about 30% to 40% of ALL relationships, romantic and otherwise.
At most that accounts for only 41% of romantic
relationships, huh? What about the other 59%?
I would say most of the remaining relationships are
"karmic connections", meaning people you've been with in
one or more prior lifetimes. Perhaps you are together
again to balance out some karma, have another attempt at
learning a major lesson, accomplish things jointly or
present myriad minor growth challenges to each other.
Certainly you are together to learn from one another
-- and it is rarely easy or altogether fun!
And on rare occasion, I think we connect with someone
who is BRAND NEW to us. As if God gives us a clean
slate, a breath of fresh air. Frankly such "virgin"
relationships COULD be the easiest -- IF we make the
right choices and create great karma together. I think
we get that chance, maybe about 10% of the time.
That's a quick review of the spiritual underpinnings of
romantic relationships. Just how these spiritual themes
play out in your life in the "dating/mating game" is
also fascinating and worth exploring another time.
Meanwhile, when you next pine for meeting your
"soul mate," be careful what you wish for. And look
around. She or he may well be right there -- under your
KARMA!
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Copyright 2004 Timothy Dexter Latus, All Rights Reserved
Timothy Dexter Latus, PhD, DPMP, is CEO of Academy of
Psychic Arts & Sciences. In 30+ years as a professional
psychic he has helped thousands discover and develop
better relationships. Timothy is available to help you,
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